first time jitters

to call a number out of a phone book and have someone ask you what you are looking for or run through a list of several descriptions of who's available right now. Originally Posted by roll_with_me

And those days aren't that long ago, but until your post they had left my mind. Amazing. 10-15 years ago that's what you got was a verbal lineup of what the agency had.

And it always cracked me up the descriptions were just as overstated as the digital ads today, "First up we got Candi. Candi is 36/24/36 with double d's and legs for miles. She's 5'10" and brunette. She's a college student and an brilliant conversationalist...Next we got BRandi...she's....." Those phone operators were incredible liars.

You never heard, "All I got working tonight is Sandi. She's 42, staff edit, CC and has a flat stomach if you don't mind the C-Section. No tits to speak of but we're working on her. She's dumber than a box of rocks so she'll be about 45 minutes late but if you can hold on she'll take good care of you.."

The advice to book with a mature provider is something I missed telling the OP. My first was 53 (and could wear out most 18 year olds). She was a legend around here but has since retired. That old country song about "older" women being beautiful lovers had a ton of wisdom in it. The more mature providers have seen it all and are a great place to start - or finish for that matter.

Ok, i'm a first timer here. I can't seem to hit the send button to these newbie friendly providers. You remember your first time? I would love to hear some stories. Originally Posted by nctotx

It's when you don't get those jitters the first time you meet someone that you should be worried.

If you have jitters, maybe put up an ISO or post in the men's area and ask which newbie-friendly providers might be patient and able to put you at ease. I'd definitely recommend someone on the upper end of your acceptable age range for your first. The more mature the lady is, the more likely she'll be able to see past herself enough to help YOU relax. Just do your research and take the advice of the wiser men around you (choose your mentors carefully, please) and you'll be just fine. We ladies are very happy to see you and please you, so don't worry too much. You're going to have a great time. Originally Posted by CarolineDavenport

Looks like Caroline would be "very happy to see you and please you, so don't worry too much". There you go!! She is willing to TOFTT...perfect!!

You two have a nice time and be sure to report back!!

The first time was definitely nerve racking. I joined Eccie and P411 and did research for about 2 months. It was a little frustrating when all the P411 independent providers I was interested in needed 2-3 OK's.

I finally settled for a provider from an agency, as I felt there was a little bit of consistency (TC). I scheduled a 2 hour to make sure it wasn't rushed. It was a great experience, a wonderful provider, and a great start. I got my first 2-3 OKs there, and then I branched out, and almost exclusively with independents.

11 months, 22 unique OKs and more than twice that many sessions, now I wonder if I have an addiction.....

Best of luck, and keep us posted. And most importantly have fun!!

DNG

You never heard, "All I got working tonight is Sandi. She's 42, staff edit, CC and has a flat stomach if you don't mind the C-Section. No tits to speak of but we're working on her. She's dumber than a box of rocks so she'll be about 45 minutes late but if you can hold on she'll take good care of you.." Originally Posted by atlcomedy

I love it!!

Are you able to even take pics of your 1.3 inches of dangling death? Originally Posted by Cpalmson

Thanck you for asking. Yes, my 1.3" of dangling death is legendary. I dress up the 1.3" of dangling death in seasonal costumes and get it to pose and send ladies the photos.

Thanck you for asking. Yes, my 1.3" of dangling death is legendary. I dress up the 1.3" of dangling death in seasonal costumes and get it to pose and send ladies the photos. Originally Posted by pyramider

Can we get a pic of the Valentine's outfit, pretty please?!?

Thanck you for asking. Yes, my 1.3" of dangling death is legendary. I dress up the 1.3" of dangling death in seasonal costumes and get it to pose and send ladies the photos. Originally Posted by pyramider

Can we get a pic of the Valentine's outfit, pretty please?!? Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

It's jaw dropping...

It's when you don't get those jitters the first time you meet someone that you should be worried. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

A few other basic things for the OP to consider:

--What are you really looking for out of this? Whatever you answer honestly for yourself is not wrong, but just realize guys come here looking to different things. If you aren't honest with yourself then it is hard make the right investment.

--What is important to you? Essentially the same question as above only broken Dow a little more into some specifics. For me it is attitude, sense of humor, age range. Specific looks like hair color, height, etc., or particular menu are secondary. Other men care more about a certain body type, or location, or price. As with what you are looking for there is no right answer except in your own perspective. But being honest here really helps narrow down your search for someone who will likely be easier for you to write to.

--Read thriugh the Dallas board. Find a lady who meets what you think is important to you and just send her a PM--not askew ng for a session, but just following up on something she said or something you saw in her profile. A simple complement is often a much less threatening way for you to start. This PM is not really for HER, it is for YOU. It is the bunny slope instead of the double diamond for your first skiing experience.

--Once she replies, if you like her reply, jump in and ask about seeing her. Read her information required section, clearly fill it out, tell her a little about yourself so you are more than a flat piece of paper, and hit SEND. Whether you are looking for a GFE experience or a straight physical experience, be polite and professional. Full sentences. Half a page give or take, no more. Three page e-mails and one liners are both bad form and likely to get back results.

--I know there are mixed opinions on this one, but I would mention this is your first such experience. When you meet her you WILL be nervous. She will be able to tell that you are nervous. Best she understand why.

Anyway, that is my biased view of things. Hope it helps.

Good luck. But if you pick a good, well reviewed lady and and let hertake the lead you shouldn't need much luck.

Are you able to even take pics of your 1.3 inches of dangling death? Originally Posted by Cpalmson

Thanck you for asking. Yes, my 1.3" of dangling death is legendary. Originally Posted by pyramider

Imagine an egg in a bird's nest....

Can we get a pic of the Valentine's outfit, pretty please?!? Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

It would be an image violation if I post it in open forum. Tebow knows I do not like to violate the guidelines.

Ok, i'm a first timer here. I can't seem to hit the send button to these newbie friendly providers. You remember your first time? I would love to hear some stories. Originally Posted by nctotx

I'm a newbie myself..just got back from my very first time.

What's going through your head when you're looking at the profile of a provider you like, and your mouse cursor is waiting just above the send button?

I'd like to second Caroline's advice about trying to find a more mature provider of whatever 'type' you like. A provider with more experience with clients will generally be more patient with a nervous client and have better skill at putting you at ease.

Also:

--What is important to you? Essentially the same question as above only broken Dow a little more into some specifics. For me it is attitude, sense of humor, age range. Specific looks like hair color, height, etc., or particular menu are secondary. Other men care more about a certain body type, or location, or price. As with what you are looking for there is no right answer except in your own perspective. But being honest here really helps narrow down your search for someone who will likely be easier for you to write to.

--Read through the Dallas board. Find a lady who meets what you think is important to you and just send her a PM--not asking for a session, but just following up on something she said or something you saw in her profile. A simple compliment is often a much less threatening way for you to start. This PM is not really for HER, it is for YOU. It is the bunny slope instead of the double diamond for your first skiing experience. Originally Posted by Old-T

These two points would apply to everyone, not just those in Dallas.

I thought this was a very well written page that provides tips for someone new. Of course this includes tips that specifically apply to her, but it also provides some great general tips. I've never met this lady, but she's put together a well thought out website, with a very personal feeling introduction.

http://fantasysrendered.com/?page_id=6

I agree, she did a nice job with that.