Some Actual Food for Thought - Emotional Intimacy in the Hobby

[QUOTE=Sistine Chapel;1058794404]I digress

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I enjoy being in the midst of that scenario so much that I hobby Originally Posted by Dynalow96

So much so that you can't pinpoint which of the numerous whores can get you there the easiest and the quickest. You end up chasing the same whore but never realizing that you will never find her. Just chalk it up that you like the euphoria that you get from the hobby but not necessarily the whores themselves.

Going back more than 20 years to my first p4p experience Originally Posted by NMEufdaST8

In other words, he's TOO OLD.


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The ladies I have seen more than once are truly engaging and intelligent Originally Posted by mangotwist

Was this before or after you came? My money is on the after

I luv my S.O and have a close emotional bond that could never be diluted by sex. Originally Posted by maineblame

Sex between lovers usually makes the emotional bond stronger.

I personally am very happy to have found this site. I am here for a very specific reason that I am not going to go into...because I am relatively new here...and because, well, I'm a guy...but...
one of the things that I enjoyed about my last session with one of the ladys here was that in the short time we were together, the things we talked about, while we were enjoying each other, were things I wouldn't be able to talk about with anybody else without jokes, embarrassment, posturing, bragging, and anything else that would derail the discussion. It was so freeing! My last SO was not that way. One my goals has always been to find someone I can talk to about anything.
Ok, that's enough emotional intimacy!
I'm a guy, so, I do also like the sex!

there were a few times when after sex with a provider, we lay there holding each other and talking, and yes that was very nice. But it doesn't happen often.

[QUOTE=terrier16973479;10587950 62]My last SO was not that way. [QUOTE]

You didn't say much to the SO because you didn't want to pay the pussy penalty tax.

there were a few times when after sex with a provider, we lay there holding each other and talking, and yes that was very nice. But it doesn't happen often. Originally Posted by spear89

In Houston it's more like this:

I think for some of my longtime friends, they use our time together for many purposes, to gripe about the wife,talk about the Asshat boss,get a start to finish bj...(apparently one you walk down the isle THAT stops) and some I've found truly enjoy having someone to talk to without any side effects like emotions or feelings. And I believe that being able to do that does fill an emotional void for some. I've quit asking or even rally wondering WHY they hobby,and just try to fill the need. Honestly I'd be surprised if even the most "active" hobbiest would even acknowledge the emotional intimacy that we as providers, provide.But I'm glad to see something more than who gives the best Bbbj in co-ed. Originally Posted by nikkivikkisix

Pretty much agree with this. Providers, for some, are the Bartenders that sell Pussy instead of Booze. I usually become a regular with someone I connect with on both levels.

I usually become a regular with someone I connect with on both levels. Originally Posted by Oralist

But the problem in Houston is at what time will the carriage turn back into a pumpkin, Cinderella Man?

As demonstrated by all the responses, there are a lot of different needs-situations in play out there. For me, a sexless marriage also means a non effect ion marriage. So no touching of a hand on the face and no Lfk or dfk, no emotional connection. Basically a pure living hell. And then the Gfe comes along and throws me a life line and reminds me of what it's like to be human. Thank goodness for the Gfe's as the divorce rate would be much higher and the pent up inner road rage would be off the charts and so on.

For me, a sexless marriage also means a non effect ion marriage. So no touching of a hand on the face and no Lfk or dfk, no emotional connection. Basically a pure living hell. And then the Gfe comes along and throws me a life line and reminds me of what it's like to be human. Originally Posted by michaelrayab

The way I see it the hobby in Houston is akin to being in a "sexless marriage" because the BSC, less than stellar IOP, and bad attitude are quite strong and very prevalent amongst Houston whores.

LMAO, you hobby for the sex! The other crap you can get from the civilian population or from a shrink. Originally Posted by WolfWhistle

^ you and I may be in the same league but we don't ball the same. ;-) ; that's a line I stole from 2 Chainz. Seriously though sex is part of it but for me but it's probably only about 30% of why I do what I do no matter how hot she is. Conversely you can (and should) also get sex from the civi world; maybe you can't so if this is your only gig I can certainly see where you're coming from.

There's been many times your (not you personally) favorite provider (speaking in general) basically called in sick on you or had to reschedule all of her appointments for the day because I (was trying to pull a Thurston Howell ) called and just wanted to chill for the day, no sex. Could I have called up a RW friend and did the exact same without P4P? Absolutely. Not that it's my MO but I'm very selective in who I fool with these days but I do treat providers I associate with with the same personal respect as I treat anyone else in the RW. It's just who I am and I don't apologize nor am I ashamed of it. I have perspective.

^ you and I may be in the same league but we don't ball the same. ;-) ; that's a line I stole from 2 Chainz. Seriously though sex is part of it but for me but it's probably only about 30% of why I do what I do no matter how hot she is. Conversely you can (and should) also get sex from the civi world; maybe you can't so if this is your only gig I can certainly see where you're coming from.

There's been many times your (not you personally) favorite provider (speaking in general) basically called in sick on you or had to reschedule all of her appointments for the day because I (was trying to pull a Thurston Howell ) called and just wanted to chill for the day, no sex. Could I have called up a RW friend and did the exact same without P4P? Absolutely. Not that it's my MO but I'm very selective in who I fool with these days but I do treat providers I associate with with the same personal respect as I treat anyone else in the RW. It's just who I am and I don't apologize nor am I ashamed of it. I have perspective. Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

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