Some Actual Food for Thought - Emotional Intimacy in the Hobby

ok lets close this thread out with what should have been my first response to the OP:

LoL ur a funny dude .....kinda. I'm not all wound up which allows me to wait till the time is good for my RW. You on the other hand seem angry and frustrated im not tripping cause cocksman don't have to trip.

I enjoy the closeness of a woman which means she more than a Fleshlight with boobs so i can be more methodical. This thread is about emotional enjoyment of a provider and there's nothing wrong with that. to each is own but i'm not dead inside...i want to connect somehow with who i give this ALABAMA BLACK SNAKE

If there's no human connection then i might as well fuck a blow up doll or fleshlight and save $$$. But again 2 Each's OWN .... Originally Posted by maineblame

How can I be angry and frustrated if I don't have to go home to someone who is suppose to fulfill my sexual desires but doesn't? How can I be angry and frustrated if I don't have to go to someone who I have to kiss ass to because she has a thumb over me in some emotional or financial capacity? I highly doubt that most Johns are methodical in their approach to lovemaking. Most suck at it which explains why they have to pay for it and request MSOG. You are dead inside because like a lot of Johns you can't stick with just one hooker.

I understand that these gutless wonders pay for your lifestyle, so you have to go along with it for the sake of business. More power to you. Originally Posted by WolfWhistle

It seems like most gents in the hobby do not believe that a provider's "IOP" can ever be actually genuine; I disagree with this. Some of use genuinely enjoy what we do and bringing pleasure/satisfaction to people who might not otherwise be getting it in their lives.

WW proves the fact that emotional attachment in the mind of a simpleton can be dangerous(Bonemaker Ref#1)But sensuality doesn't always involve LOVE. WW should listen to T-pain's "I'm in Love wid a stripper" and think about why he's such an angry internet persona

@Vicki I'm not jaded just a patient thinker who has learned not to think with the little head 24/7.

Good Cums Cum to those who wait.
Ghandi ' Originally Posted by maineblame

Didn't mean to insinuate you are jaded; it sounds more like frustrated. It's not good to let one's frustration reach such a point without some release.

Thank you VOH!

Very entertaining.
Originally Posted by Slitlikr

Lols, glad you enjoyed, for whatever reason(s).


Also, thanks to all those who commented with their perspectives. It is interesting to see some real insight into the male hobbyist's brain.

I agree with you v of h. I meet someone quite often and I have to tell you it's more than IOP? It's real passion, may be witn me.

I agree with you v of h. I meet someone quite often and I have to tell you it's more than IOP? It's real passion, may be witn me. Originally Posted by Caligula1

Yes; I know what I feel during a session, so I am able to believe it is the same for other providers. Maybe some ladies can force themselves to do this sort of work without really enjoying it....I'm not saying I am in love with every single client that walks through my door, but I do enjoy what I do and being able to help people relax and feel good. I am sure other ladies feel the same.

Two psychologists surveyed 100 men who hobby, and asked them why they do it.

For 48 of those men, one of the main reasons was an attempt to find some emotional intimacy.

This actually surprised me quite a lot. Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

Why? ... Think through your client base ... I'm sure you'll find that at least half of them are stuck in sexless marriages or are just plain too dorky to get laid by civvie women in RL.

Why? ... Think through your client base ... I'm sure you'll find that at least half of them are stuck in sexless marriages or are just plain too dorky to get laid by civvie women in RL. Originally Posted by StinkyFingers

Most of the gents I meet do not divulge such personal details to me, during our time(s) together, which is totally understandable.

I was initially a bit surprised at this, but the longer I keep providing, the more it makes sense to me.

Most of the gents I meet do not divulge such personal details to me, during our time(s) together, which is totally understandable.

I was initially a bit surprised at this, but the longer I keep providing, the more it makes sense to me. Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

Also, single men pay for sex in Houston because the dating pool is tainted. There are too many cock-blocking, fickle, gold-digging, BSC, and obnoxious women in Houston that a smart guy with a healthy libido is better off renting a whore than pretending to be a real catch. It could be different in other cities in Texas.

I'm not saying I am in love with every single client that walks through my door, but I do enjoy what I do and being able to help people relax and feel good. Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

A man who gets to have FS SEX!!! after paying good money for it will "relax and feel good." Anything less means you are too old, can't get it up, and think you have some kind of morality.

It seems like most gents in the hobby do not believe that a provider's "IOP" can ever be actually genuine; I disagree with this. Some of use genuinely enjoy what we do and bringing pleasure/satisfaction to people who might not otherwise be getting it in their lives. Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

I will keep the authenticity of your "IOP" in mind while my cock is in your body and ready to release.

Most of the gents I meet do not divulge such personal details to me, during our time(s) together, which is totally understandable.

I was initially a bit surprised at this, but the longer I keep providing, the more it makes sense to me. Originally Posted by Victoria of Houston

Maybe they don't divulge such personal details to you, but you certainly have a sense as to whether any one of your clients is too much of a dork to hit civvie pussy ... SHM

Good thread, finally got around to reading it. Al Bundy makes a great point - Eccie solves his sexless marriage problem, allowing him to remain married and keep family together. I've said it before, and there may be a thread about it: Eccie saved my marriage. I was in the same situation and Eccie very definitely saved my own marriage - I loved my SO and my Kids. I recently lost my SO to cancer and its wonderful that I came out of it with a clean record. However, that topic is slightly off-topic for this thread.

On topic: I've been hobbying like crazy this year, now I'm single. It fits my needs because I am not ready to fall in love again and I am free to play the field. I've been having the BEST time. My Eccie girls are fantastic. Which also made me post this thread a while back -- http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?...035&highlight=

I do have a bit of a crush on a couple of my favorites - and I've told them that. Told them they can kick me out if I get too lovey-dovey - I am quite realistic and pragmatic - I'm not gonna start stalking or harassing them. But then again, I'm thinking I probably am gonna marry one of my hookers. Eventually.

So, to answer your question VOH: I guess I am looking for a little emotional comfort, but I am also quite happy if we just fuck each others brains out (which seems to happen quite frequently).

I'm thinking I probably am gonna marry one of my hookers. Eventually. Originally Posted by ktrouble22

but I am also quite happy if we just fuck each others brains out (which seems to happen quite frequently). Originally Posted by ktrouble22

Mmmm, good 'ole fashioned sex; sounds good to me.

Where did you come up with this bullshit? Some youtube video? Originally Posted by oilfieldscum

Excellent point to give. Especially from someone giving advise who has 0 reviews.
And 1,492 posts in 4 months.