No offense...

Chemistry is legit though. Some guys come in with the personality of a wet paper bag and just lay there quietly staring at you so you just go through the motions. Other guys have the gift of gab or bring you presents or they are an Energizer bunny or they kiss you like a long lost lover so you have chemistry off the bat. Originally Posted by Lexxxy

I like the ones who are quiet because they've got a sick stomach from nerves and a glass-cutting erection. Then i like to be super dominant, but quiety so...lots of eye contact and shit. Sometimes i whisper "now...i want you to put your hand around my throat while you spit in my mouth" The looks on some ppls faces is priceless!

I stg i was a serial rapist in a past life. I AM back in therapy with a therapist (spelled "the-rapist"!!), too, lmfao.

Your comments are quite erotic Ms. Minka. Please keep up the quality writing.

Minka just hit number one on my list...

So, just maybe, the client and provider have a true connection. What then? They may like the same music, the same movies, the same activities. Then what? Perhaps it's not out of the question for a relationship to begin. Both knowing each other's habits. Both open minded enough to accept reality for what it really is. That's hard to find. Think about it openmindedly if possible. If the girlfriend was seeing men to earn money for the household would you object? Then to turn it around. If the boyfriend was seeing women to earn money for the household would you object? People willing to work for a living, whether it be this taboo lifestyle or not, show the initiative to support themselves rather than depend on Gov't handouts. Aka, welfare, section 8, food stamps, etc. People need to rid themselves of this stigma that has been deeply engrained in the American psyche. It really is possible for two people to love each other in a committed relationship yet do what needs to be done outside the relationship to keep and support their union alive and well beyond their work arrangements.

So, just maybe, the client and provider have a true connection. What then? They may like the same music, the same movies, the same activities. Then what? Perhaps it's not out of the question for a relationship to begin. Both knowing each other's habits. Both open minded enough to accept reality for what it really is. That's hard to find. Think about it openmindedly if possible. If the girlfriend was seeing men to earn money for the household would you object? Then to turn it around. If the boyfriend was seeing women to earn money for the household would you object? People willing to work for a living, whether it be this taboo lifestyle or not, show the initiative to support themselves rather than depend on Gov't handouts. Aka, welfare, section 8, food stamps, etc. People need to rid themselves of this stigma that has been deeply engrained in the American psyche. It really is possible for two people to love each other in a committed relationship yet do what needs to be done outside the relationship to keep and support their union alive and well beyond their work arrangements. Originally Posted by Twentysomething

Yes
It's rare but it's completely possible. ( And not as rare as it once was)
Of course it's only when both people who are involved have the same mindset regarding sex and love.

So, question for you. Have you ever?

So, question for you. Have you ever? Originally Posted by Twentysomething

Yes I have.
And it's working out great ty for asking.

I think that's really great for you if you're not just adding fluff to this string. What does it really matter how 2 people met and began a relationship. Being open minded yet secure is how a couple thrives. Knowing that your partner is there for you regardless of the circumstances. Each willing to do what needs to be done to enhance the union created. Knowing full well that sex with an outsider is just sex with an outsider. True love making is very deep and difficult to find. Trusting your partner provides peace of mind

I'm not going to say it's not possible and can't work but I would caution idealizing the scenario. Just because things may start out a certain way, does not mean as time goes on those same feelings of openness and trust in the beginning don't always transfer over to the long term.

Also, and this may ruffle some feathers, when a provider sees and experiences the amount of infidelity that happens through the course of their work, that also can change feelings and outlooks of their own personal relationships. The vise versa is also true, it's not just one side of the relationship.

Then there are also issues and problems that come into play with addiction and using (which is a significant problem in this type of industry).

Of course this doesn't apply to all people or all situations but I think it's harder for long term, heart felt relationships within this group than it is in a typical relationship.

I'm not going to say it's not possible and can't work but I would caution idealizing the scenario. Just because things may start out a certain way, does not mean as time goes on those same feelings of openness and trust in the beginning don't always transfer over to the long term.

Also, and this may ruffle some feathers, when a provider sees and experiences the amount of infidelity that happens through the course of their work, that also can change feelings and outlooks of their own personal relationships. The vise versa is also true, it's not just one side of the relationship.

Then there are also issues and problems that come into play with addiction and using (which is a significant problem in this type of industry).

Of course this doesn't apply to all people or all situations but I think it's harder for long term, heart felt relationships within this group than it is in a typical relationship.

I think that's really great for you if you're not just adding fluff to this string. What does it really matter how 2 people met and began a relationship. Being open minded yet secure is how a couple thrives. Knowing that your partner is there for you regardless of the circumstances. Each willing to do what needs to be done to enhance the union created. Knowing full well that sex with an outsider is just sex with an outsider. True love making is very deep and difficult to find. Trusting your partner provides peace of mind Originally Posted by Twentysomething

No fluff.

And as I stated earlier there's a huge difference between sex and love.
You're also correct that it takes a lot of trust but that's true of any partnership.

Some day I am going to have to meet this girl, she seems to have her head on straight.

You sound like fun!

I'm like that with "anything short of a gimp in your dungeon type shit is 'Vanilla' ". But that's only because sex is and one of the few habits I have that I can actually enjoy successfully.i.e., I've been wild from the gate...but again, same theory; "good", "wild", "taboo", etc. these are all things in which everyone has very personal opinions about, as everyone's *perception* of these are different based on life experiences- and thus entirely too subjective in nature for everyone to agree upon across the board, ykwim? Originally Posted by Minka Fox